Meet the Spontaneous Smiley Lady: Ruth Kaiser :D

The Spontaneous Smiley Lady drops by to talk about OPTIMISM.


I should start right off by admitting I don’t belong here. An author’s blog aimed at other writers?! How did mom, artist and teacher sneak in the back door and end up here? Oh, yeah I accidentally wrote a kids’ book. Who’d of thought that I’d be published by the likes of Random House? I snuck in the back door of a world about which I had no knowledge. Nobody noticed I was an imposter, a novice posing as an author, so I sure didn’t mention it.


I have had a life filled with good outcomes from taking the chance of sneaking in the back door. It’s amazing just how far chutzpah can take you. Example? I never gave acting a thought, until I day in my 40s the opportunity to sneak in the back door presented itself. I promised to stand in the back and NO I didn’t want to wear a body mike. I never let on that I was a newby. Without experience or known talent, I spent the next 5 years doing show after show, singing dancing and yes, wearing a body mike.

I simply believe optimism helps you take on the large and scary hurtles. The Optimist thinks the outcome will likely go in the direction they hope, but also knows that if things turn out differently, no big deal. The Optimist uses the “data” from one flop to attack what’s next.

Remember doing science experiments in school? Remember how the teacher cheered you on regardless of the outcome? You know, the pep talk about how what failed this time is simply data to help you design the next experiment.

What if life was one experiment after another? Wouldn’t it be great to allow yourself to accept that the screw ups we all make are valuable data for next time. But, isn’t that actually accurate? Life is an experiment. We surely learn as much from things going wrong as we do from their going well. “There is no failure, only feedback.” (author unknown)


Since life is an experiment, as a good scientist you’ve got to evaluate the screw ups. No head in the sand behavior if you’re the scientist. Look at the data and make changes. Modify what you do next time, using what you learned this time.

And here’s the coolest thing of all: Give yourself permission to be more experimental. Be a little daring. In personal relationships, what if you experimented with being vulnerable. Be the one to take the first step. Be the one to say, “I’m sorry” or “I love you” first. I bet you’ll be amazed at how OK it really is.

Might this idea help you to call that friend you’ve been meaning to call? Could experimenting help you to reach out a hand in affection, a gentle touch, in the middle of an argument? How about experiment by not criticizing a behavior that’s driving you nuts. The data might come back that your criticizing hasn’t been helping the behavior diminish.


I love this idea. I was never good at science when I was in school. But these kinds of experiments hold my interest because they have the pay off of a better life. I’m going to be a diligent scientist.

Smile. Be happy, and experimental.


Next time you and your child need a giggle break or an all important reminder that life is really, really great, check out A Smiley Book of Colors (Random House 2012, It’s a beautiful children’s book of optimism, where every pages smiles back at you.

Mom, preschool teacher and blogger, Ruth Kaiser reminds us in her whimsical rhyming text, that happiness is a choice! The poem is accompanied by photos of Smiley Faces found in everyday objects.

Pediatrician and author Dr. Alan Greene had this to say when he finally got his hands on a copy:

“I knew it was going to be good, but this so much more than good!

This is incredible!!”

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